"Don't worry about it....your body knows what to do."
"Don't worry...women have been giving birth for centuries."
"Don't worry...a healthy mom and healthy baby are what's important."
I'm sure at some point in your pregnancy you have had someone say this to you. Perhaps a well-meaning friend or a concerned family member says this as a way to encourage you. And sometimes it works. Other times... not so much.
In your heart you know these statements to be true. Maybe you even repeat them silently to yourself like a mantra with the hope of quelling some of your fears. And yet, you are still worried. You may even find yourself worried about being worried!
Some people believe that exploring your worries or fears may make them more likely to happen. We are conditioned only to "think positively" in the hopes that this will help us avoid some un-wished-for event. The reality, however, is that by avoiding fears, you avoid the hard work that needs to be done to prepare for your baby. A sense of ambivalence and immobilization occur. You can no longer envision yourself coping and moving through this event.
TEN COMMON PREGNANCY WORRIES
But it doesn't have to be that way. Worrying can be used to prepare you for the birth you envision.
Worry IS the work of pregnancy!
By learning to WORRY EFFECTIVELY, you can shift from feelings of avoidance, fearful images, and doubts about your coping skills, to images of using the resources around you to move through your labor and anything that comes your way.
If you are feeling uneasy or worried about your upcoming birth, I would love to work with you! In a quiet, safe environment, I will gently guide you to look at your worries and fears. You will discover how to use worrying to your advantage, instead of letting it control your emotions.
Read an excerpt about worrying in pregnancy from the NEW Birthing from Within: An Ancient Map for Modern Birth due later this year